The Healing Power Of Loving Relationships

How many times have you felt low, called a friend or family member and soon found yourself laughing, smiling and feeling so much better? Your health and the quality of your life are tied to the quality of your relationships (which may include your pets!) and your community of support. What is it that your relationships have that has the ability to enable healing to occur?

To answer this question, I share with you beliefs of one of my special mentors, Dr. Jeanne Achterberg, a psychologist and author known for her outstanding research dealing with imagery, healing, prayer, intention and her work with those who are diagnosed with life-threatening illnesses. In her newest work, her audiobook, Intentional Healing (available though Sounds True), which I highly recommend, she has described the five bonds of relationships which expedite healing. The essence of these bonds has been the heart of my work as a psychologist and a healer. They are the following:

The first of these bonds is the invisible energetic expression of Consciousness which includes distant healing, prayer, intentions and Mind. Einstein and his fellow physicists called these invisible ties “nonlocal mind” and emphasized their belief that we are all connected on some level. Thus, if I care for and pray for you – with the intention of healing, you will be impacted physiologically – and so will I! Loving intention establishes real ties between us. Scientific research has established this.

The second of these healing bonds is the power of Touch. Within relationships, you seek and need connection with one another through touch. Touch can be a big hug or kiss, a tap on the shoulder, cuddling, embracing, making love or petting your special pet, be it your dog, cat, horse or any other precious pet. Keep in mind that age does not slow or diminish the healing power of touch; indeed, it increases the need for touch. .

Why is touch so important? The healing power of touch is that it affirms you are a being with value and you are lovable. This is what you especially need to experience when you are diagnosed with a life-threatening illness and feel so isolated and apart from the world. If you are a caretaker, you, too, are in need of warm, compassionate and loving touch.

The third bond is that of Presence. Just your loving presence has the power to heal. You are pure energy and capable of feeling the energy of others. When you choose to be a loving presence, you are choosing to be unconditional Love, which conveys Truth and Love.

In Touched by the Extraordinary, you can read the story of physician Elisabeth Kubler-Ross, who hired the hospital cleaning attendant to be her special assistant. Why? Because this beautiful soul, who had traveled the difficult path of tragically losing her own baby while waiting for doctors in an emergency room, brought, as a loving presence, peace to Kubler-Ross’s patients who were dying. Having been personally affected and changed by the loss of her baby, this woman had the gift of being able to sooth and comfort those who were close to death.

For years I have been advocating the fourth bond described by Achterberg as the bond of a “Soul to Soul” relationship. As you live your life, no matter who you are, your goal should be relating to others at the soul level, rather than in the formal traditional roles, such as doctor-patient, parent-child and teacher-student. The “soul to soul” level is one that affirms your awareness of -and connection with- the higher part of one another, that part which is connected to the Source of each of you. When you begin to be conscious of being connected to one another as souls, love in the form of compassion, kindness and caring, comes so much more naturally.

Finally, the last bond, Love, is one which greatly contributes to your well-being. The fact that you know you are loved by another and that this love is something which is forever, conveys an eternal sense of support. Recent scientific research studies have shown that when a relationship is perceived as loving and supportive, there is a definite correlation with improved health, including fewer heart attacks and deaths, relative to the rest of the population.

The bottom-line message here is that you expedite your own healing when you choose to live your life within the embrace of a loving, caring and compassionate community of family and friends.

Susan Barbara Apollon
Author of “Touched By The Extraordinary”

©Copyright 2008 Susan Barbara Apollon

The Healing Power Of Opening To The Extraordinary (Part Four)

October 21, 2008 · Filed Under Healing Wisdom · 1 Comment 

“We forget that it isn’t important how they happen (spiritual experiences) as it is that they happen.” Melvin Morse, MD

“In order to be a realist, you must believe in miracles.” David Ben Gurion

When you choose to open the door to your heart and begin to allow in various extraordinary events, you open yourself up to a whole world of new and meaningful experiences, all of which have the capacity to take you to a deeper part of you, perhaps, even to the level of your soul. It is the beginning of you connecting with you, something that is so powerful that you know you are undergoing a transformation.

As you open to receiving a variety of messages and synchronicities, you will find yourself becoming conscious in a way you have never before experienced. Your consciousness will begin to allow you to experience even more moments of joy, inspiration and peace.

What follows is one of my favorite exercises which I use in seminars and with my patients to help nurture an awareness of the healing power of the extraordinary in one’s life. I borrow this from Rachel Naomi Remen, MD, who so beautifully describes it in The Will to Live and Other Mysteries (available on CD).

Take a few moments each evening and reflect on your day. First, take a few deep breaths, relax, and consider the question, What surprised me today? Then write about that for a few moments. Second, do the same thing with the question, What touched and/or moved me today? And third, again, do the same thing with the question, What inspired me today? I find these questions to be powerfully healing in that they connect you with a Higher Power and in this connection there is healing. The whole exercise should take no more than fifteen minutes. Do it for at least 10 to 14 days, and you will likely begin to notice a sense of feeling better, if not joy and peace.

A word of advice: if you are in need of working with a physician, be sure to align yourself with a physician who recognizes that to heal the body, you must heal the body and the soul. Trust your intuitive wisdom when you meet with your doctor. Your intuition or Higher Wisdom will let you know if this individual is one you should choose to allow into your life. If he or she listens when you speak of your intuition or what you sense is going on in your body, then you are probably with the right person.

As an example, I have had many patients share with me that during their treatment for their cancer, they began to have uncomfortable feelings regarding their physician. This led them to leave the doctor who was treating them and find another with whom to continue treatment. They believe that by being open to the extraordinary and listening to their inner voice, they have been able to experience success and healing in their lives. As always, the choice is yours as to how far you choose to open the door of your heart to the extraordinary.

Susan Barbara Apollon
Author of “Touched By The Extraordinary”

©Copyright 2008 Susan Barbara Apollon

The Healing Power Of Opening To The Extraordinary (Part Three)

October 19, 2008 · Filed Under Healing Wisdom · 1 Comment 

“The most beautiful thing we can experience is the mysterious. It is the source of all true art and science.”   Albert Einstein

Much of what makes life so wonderful, so delicious and so meaningful is related or connected to that which we can’t see, touch or feel, sometimes called the mysterious or the extraordinary, as well as to events we call synchronicities. So often, what is considered by some to possibly be a coincidence is considered by others to be a “synchronicity.” Specifically, “synchronicity” refers to events which you might think are coincidences, but which, in your heart and your whole being, you know are too meaningful to have occurred simultaneously, by chance.

Touched by the Extraordinary, a book I wrote and published in 2004, delves into the nature of extraordinary events and demonstrates that when you fill with love and compassion and open your heart to such experiences, it can lead to transformation and healing in your life. Originally written to help heal my patients who were dealing with the loss of a loved one, I expanded the intention of the book to enable you to know that when you harness your intuition and fill with love, you are more apt to experience a wide variety of remarkable or extraordinary events, all of which have the power to help you heal.

The following paragraphs include the kinds of situations which are often considered “mysterious” or “extraordinary.” Many refer to these as “signs,” implying that the event is especially meaningful and personal. When these signs occur, especially after they are requested, they tend to expedite the healing process. In fact, many of my patients who are deeply grieving the death of a loved one, share with me that receiving “signs” from them helps to ease their pain, as well as giving them hope that their loved ones are still with them, though in a different way. They often find this to be extremely comforting.

Such powerful events may include the following experiences in your life: wonderful synchronicities such as your intuition and precognition informing you someone is going to be calling or entering your life within hours, which is exactly what takes place; dreams in which you feel you have engaged in meaningful visits or communication with deceased loved ones or had an intuitive knowing and description of events about to happen; times when you have prayed and then clearly experienced answers to your prayers, including stunning healings.

Other types of “extraordinary encounters” include: hearing a voice which provides a message that saves your life (because you choose to listen to it); feeling the presence of a loved one who has died or experiencing their presence via electric lights and devices being turned on, ringing or blinking, as well as by smelling their favorite flowers, cigarettes, cigars, perfume or coffee (if they were big coffee drinkers).

Additionally, many have shared with me “extraordinary events” which have included seeing (having visions of) or experiencing angels, Masters, and deceased loved ones; also, having near-death experiences; noticing the frequent or atypical appearance of animals, butterflies, dragonflies or birds (such as an eagle, owl or cardinal) which were especially meaningful to a loved one who has died. (TO BE CONTINUED)

Susan Barbara Apollon
Author of “Touched By The Extraordinary”

©Copyright 2008 Susan Barbara Apollon

The Healing Power Of Opening To The Extraordinary (Part Two)

October 5, 2008 · Filed Under Healing Wisdom · 1 Comment 

“Through his or her intuition, the multisensory human comes to understand and to experience truth consciously.” Gary Zukav

You are blessed to live your life with the following four major inherent powers, natural resources or gifts: your Consciousness, sometimes called Mind; your intuition; your ability to use your imagination, and your breath. With these, you have the power to expedite your healing.

Mind is so much more than the physical matter we call your brain. Mind is that part of you which enables you to connect with everyone and everything anywhere in the Universe. This is as impressive as it sounds. I like to think that we are always tapping into a huge field of mind energy, reworking what we take, adding to it and returning it back into the Field, causing it to expand even more.

Your intuition is your own inherent resource that enables you to know everything you need to know. This can be considered a WOW factor! You were born with a Knowing that has nothing to do with the rational mind or with your studies. This Knowing, sometimes called your sixth sense, is stored in every cell of your body, including your brain, your memories and your dreams. It represents your connection with your Higher Wisdom or the Wisdom of your Soul, or God or whatever you choose to call your source. Such Knowing guides you to do what you need to do for balance and wholeness.. The key is whether you choose to acknowledge and listen to this powerful wisdom. If you do, there can be healing.

Your imagination is an enormous resource for you because it allows you to create and manifest your reality (which may seem quite extraordinary before it becomes your reality). This is how Walt Disney created Disneyland! He imagined it with great passion and enthusiasm, just as you do with your dreams, and this led to his dream being fulfilled. I teach patients how to harness their imagination, via the use of imagery, to creatively come up with images to destroy unwanted cancer cells and contribute to healing, as well as to improve their chemotherapy experience. You can do this, as well.

Finally, your breath is a wondrous gift; in that, when you learn the art of focusing on your breath, you can become the master of you! This occurs when you learn to pay attention to your in-breath and out-breath and the path it takes as it enters and flows through you. When you do this, you have the ability to create relaxation and calm within the workings of your entire being.

There are two huge healing benefits of learning to harness the extraordinary gift of your breath. First, you are producing needed chemicals which enhance the working of your immune system and which restore you to balance and harmony. And, second, you are raising your energetic vibrations so that you are more apt to receive needed wisdom from your Higher Self which can also guide you to healing.
All of this makes you quite extraordinary! Yet, these natural resources enable you to also easily access the “extraordinary” or remarkable aspects of life, and, in doing this, you also enhance your ability to heal. So, what are these “extraordinary” aspects which bring you closer to restoring your own inner harmony, balance and wholeness? (TO BE CONTINUED)

Susan Barbara Apollon
Author of “Touched By The Extraordinary”

©Copyright 2008 Susan Barbara Apollon