To Feel Good And Find Your Bliss, Do Not Hesitate To Be Inspired By People In Your Life

July 7, 2009 · Filed Under Creating Peace & Happiness · Comment 

“The thing I remember best about successful people I’ve met all through the years is their obvious delight in what they’re doing…and it seems to have very little to do with worldly success. They just love what they’re doing, and they love it in front of others.”

Fred Rodgers

Find people to inspire you. Anyone who inspires you most likely vibrates energetically at a higher level which, in turn, enables you to feel good. My patients inspire me every day that I am privileged to sit and be with them. Because they choose to come to me, often when they are in great pain or experiencing a sense of loss (either of which often impairs their daily functions), they are actually demonstrating courage and strength just by choosing to come to see me. I watch these exquisite beings working so diligently to recover their souls and their identities.

One patient recently had been in an accident in which a car hit him while he was riding his bike, causing (miraculously) only mild injuries, but clearly having also created a shift in consciousness, due to the trauma. About a week after the accident, he sat in my office sharing with me the most eloquent writing that expressed his feelings. He viewed his accident as a significant turning point in his life, one that he felt had transformed him. He spoke with great wisdom, deepened understanding and a greater sense of maturity. I was inspired by the manner in which he had found such powerful meaning in an event which, for others, would probably have been viewed quite differently.

My cancer patients inspire me in so many ways. One patient I had been working with, on and off for years, came back to see me during the weeks leading up to her death. It became immediately apparent to me that the illness had brought about an amazing personal transformation in her. This very loving, kind, compassionate and upbeat woman had accepted her cancer and her life.

She had actually claimed her power – something she had never been able to do up to that point. For the first time in her life, she spoke with calmness, peacefulness, complete love for herself and others and great self-confidence. She was no longer afraid of standing up for what she knew to be right and just. I was moved and inspired by her courage, power and stunning ability to assert herself in ways she could not previously do.

Her family, friends and doctors were inspired by the manner in which she approached her own death. Because she was not afraid of death, neither was her family. The manner in which she chose to die enabled her family to handle her death with a greater sense of peace and equanimity than would have been the case if she had handled it any other way.

Another patient has heroically handled her challenge of a diagnosis of Multiple Sclerosis. I am extremely inspired by her choosing to view her MS as a teacher of many lessons. Her determination to persist in holding onto her vision of well-being and being able to continue to live her life with good quality has enabled her to continue playing her beloved music (which is inspirational for her) and has enabled her to walk without the canes she once thought she would always need. She is a magnificent role model of hope, perseverance and great wisdom for all of us.

Your well-being and your bliss can be engendered by being conscious and aware of aligning with those who move and inspire you. It is all about feeling good because when you are inspired and feeling good, you know you are connected to your own soul, to your Source and to All There Is. Choose to be inspired and bliss will be yours!

“When I think of Robert Frost’s poems, like ‘The Road Not Taken,’ I feel the support of someone who is on my side, who understands what life’s choices are like, someone who says, ‘I’ve been there, and it’s okay to go on.’”

Fred Rogers

Susan Barbara Apollon

Author of “Touched By The Extraordinary”
& Intuition Is Easy & Fun

©2009 Susan Barbara Apollon

To Feel Bliss And Happiness, Make It Your Intention To Be Inspired By Life

June 11, 2009 · Filed Under Creating Peace & Happiness · Comment 

“Life is my college.” Louisa May Alcott

“Where there is love, there is life.” Mohandas Gandhi

When interviewed for The Survivor Spirit, cancer patient, Jane Yamashiro stated: “Help may not come from where you expect, but it comes if you ask and are open to receiving it.” She also stated: “Why dwell on negative issues and load yourself with baggage when you can glide through life and enjoy the views? Life is wonderful when you let go and flow.” Jane allows herself to be inspired by life!

In my own life, I have made it my intention to be inspired by various people, places, situations and special words – and have created my dreams via putting my focus of intention on my sources of inspiration. For example, I have learned that I draw to me that with which I am vibrationally and energetically aligned and that the highest level of energetic vibration, for me, is Love. Thus, above a collage of family photographs in my kitchen hangs a wood carving with a favorite quote that has been a source of personal inspiration for me for more than twenty years: ‘I have learned to cherish those I love as though I would not have tomorrow.

I am inspired by words that remind me of why I am here, who I am and how I can be of service. I am inspired by Love – every moment of every day. This includes actions of Love, words of Love and thoughts of Love. Love is such a high vibration that it has the power to make us feel genuinely good and happy and attract to us very positive, high energetic experiences, including healing miracles.

Healers inspire me, perhaps because their work is grounded on Love. When our fifteen year-old dog, Amber was diagnosed with cancer by our vet, which was later confirmed by the University of Pennsylvania, I chose to use a variety of healing techniques that I had learned from those healers whose work inspired me. These techniques involved, on a daily basis, experiencing a sense of merging into the Oneness with All There Is and then filling with overwhelming feelings of Love and projecting this Love onto Amber while touching and holding her.

I was also inspired to go on a wonderful healing retreat in which I studied the healing work of renowned psychologist, Larry LeShan (taught by his protégé, psychologist, Joyce Goodrich). LeShan has been honored by Harvard for his work in the area of intentional healing or distant intention.

For four days, I engaged in intentional healing meditations and experiences. The day after I returned home, I discovered, much to my amazement, that Amber’s right gum was no longer filled with the cancer. Instead, when I lifted her gum, I discovered healthy, pink tissue on both sides of her mouth. Even Amber’s vet, Dr. Louise Morin, validated that this was a legitimate extraordinary healing. Consequently, Amber lived almost two more years (to almost seventeen, most unusual for Golden Retrievers). Had I not been inspired to do the work of intentional healing, this would not have occurred.

As a result of my having been inspired, I chose to write about this in my book, Touched by the Extraordinary, so that others, perhaps you, might be inspired in a similar manner. I know that I am not unique. If I am able to apply such healing methods and intentions, so can you. In this way others may be inspired as I have been by so many beautiful souls. (To be continued…)

Susan Barbara Apollon

Author of “Touched By The Extraordinary”
& Intuition Is Easy & Fun

©2009 Susan Barbara Apollon

Get Involved In Something Inspirational And You Find Bliss And Happiness!

May 19, 2009 · Filed Under Creating Peace & Happiness · Comment 

“All our dreams come true if we have the courage to pursue them.”

Walt Disney

So, what is inspiration? How does it impact us? And what and who inspires you? Clearly, if nothing else, to be inspired or to focus on something inspirational is all very high vibrational activity, contributing to you feeling like you are living your bliss, finding happiness and a sense of empowerment!.

The word inspire actually has several definitions: 1. To stimulate somebody to do something (encourage somebody to greater effort, enthusiasm or creativity); 2. To provoke particular feeling (arouse a particular feeling in somebody, as inspires optimism); 3. To cause creative activity (to stimulate somebody to do something, especially creative or artistic work); 4 to breathe in (as to inhale air).

For me, personally, that which inspires me (fills me with beautiful spirit) is what touches my heart and my entire being, in a way that motivates or pushes me to want to take some kind of action or to, at least, give thought and consideration to the meaning in my own life of whatever it is that has inspired me. Whatever my inspiration is, it serves my journey in some way, contributing to the forward or upward movement, hopefully, of my soul’s growth – and, most of all, it really feels good!

If you are looking for some bliss and joy, take time to become aware of your sources of inspiration; take time to look for situations, people, experiences and moments which you intuitively know will uplift you and, because they feel so good, you will hold in your heart, where you keep your treasure box of special vibrational memories, as we do with Susan Boyle’s experience, forever treasuring them ….again and again.

Finding inspiration is so often about the internal meaning you give to an external event, making it, then, something precious and uplifting to you. For example, I recently had the honor of participating in a benefit theater production in Bucks County, PA, of Eve Ensler’s The Vagina Monologues.. The goal of the monologues: create awareness of - and an end to - the violence against women. All profits went to charities which support the education of ending the abuse against women and girls.

To my surprise, I found that by choosing to participate in this magnificent production, I was finding daily, if not moment to moment, inspiration that moved me to tears, through the words I was reading and the actors with whom I was performed. Those of you who watch Oprah know that through the gift of television, you are often inspired by her guests and what they have done or by Oprah and all that she is doing to help the world. This is what I felt by choosing to perform in this play.

Consequently, I felt empowered and wonderful – and wanted to be able to do even more to stop the violence against women and to bring peace to the world in which we live. I felt, also, a sense of transformation occurring within me and, most important, I felt I was making a difference! Yes, I was – and have been– inspired by both Eve Ensler’s words and deeds and by the incredibly gifted actors with whom I performed. These women ranged in age from 16 to 65! Quite a group and I was so honored to be included. (To be continued…)

Susan Barbara Apollon

Author of “Touched By The Extraordinary”
& Intuition Is Easy & Fun

©2009 Susan Barbara Apollon

To Feel Good, Be Happy & Find Your Bliss, Seek Out What Inspires You – And Be Inspired!

You can do nothing to inspire the person in front of you, if you do not inspire yourself first.” Sogyal Rinpoche

Have you noticed that when you are in need of a feel-good experience, and you find something or someone that fills you with inspiration, you suddenly feel so much better  – even bliss and joy? And, you may even feel a sense of intuitive wisdom or purpose rising up within you.

Awareness of what inspires you can be a key to your happiness, bliss, experiencing healing and even living with a sense of purpose. Just consider the beautiful, heartwarming story of Susan Boyle, which, thanks to the internet, has spread around the globe.

Personally, listening to the newest internet sensation, Susan Boyle, became my most recent source of inspiration. I click to listen, knowing that I will cry and be moved to tears as I listen to the gift of her unexpected magnificent voice.. Quite a paradox, if you stop and think about it.

An international sensation taking the world by surprise, Susan Boyle, in the video of her performance on Britain’s Got Talent, has touched hearts everywhere. No one, that I can recall, has inspired so many people throughout the world just by singing one song, amazing as that song is.

Seeing and hearing Susan sing I Dream a Dream from the Broadway show, Les Miserables, brings tears to just about everyone who experiences her. Is it because a dowdy 47 year-old woman surprises us with an unbelievable voice? Are we moved by the stunned looks and words of the three judges, some of whom are known for being rather nasty and sharp tongued with contestants who resemble Susan, an older gal, from a little village in Scotland, dressed plainly and with little or no makeup? Is it that the music is extraordinary? Or is it because, perhaps, we see ourselves in Susan, each of us holding a dream – a vision -, which we are able to make a reality before we come to the end of our life, as she does with this moving, superb and incredible performance?

And why is it that we like to listen to Susan sing I Dream a Dream as often as we do? Perhaps, it is because she inspires us. Yes, she represents hope that we, too, may be able to bring our dreams to fulfillment. When I hear Susan sing, I am inspired; that is, I am infused with the spirit of Hope, Joy, Enthusiasm, Possibility and Love. I feel good hearing her magnificent voice. She is a symbol of hope for me and for all of us that we need to hold onto vision– that anything and everything is possible.

When you choose to focus on someone or something which inspires you, you feel wonderful, full of hope, motivation and joy, enabling you to experience an energetic higher quality of life. A word or two of advice: If you want to feel good, make it a point to become more aware of what it is that inspires and infuses you with life-giving energy, joy and purpose. You will have a win-win situation! (To be continued…)

Susan Barbara Apollon

Author of “Touched By The Extraordinary”
& Intuition Is Easy & Fun

©2009 Susan Barbara Apollon

Finding Bliss And Peace Via Meaningful Rituals – Part 5

May 2, 2009 · Filed Under Creating Peace & Happiness · Comment 

One of the nicest things about life is the way we must regularly stop whatever it is we are doing and devote our attention to eating.
~Luciano Pavaroti and William Wright~

Where there is love, there is life.
~Mohandas Gandhi~

Food is such a valuable aspect of self-generated ceremonial rituals. Furthermore, food is an expression of healing, loving energy which enables you to feel good and experience bliss. Consider your holidays and how important it is for you to include traditional foods and dishes always associated with specific holidays. Somehow, knowing the treats you will serve or receive as a part of your holiday meals seems to ground and stabilize you, enabling you to feel safe, rooted, deeply loved and that all is okay with you and your world.

As you go about preparing and eating the ritualistic holiday foods, remember to project or feel love in every morsel of food. Actually, it happens quite naturally. Personally, hot dogs and hamburgers convey love, comfort and healing joyful energy for me each July 4th, as does turkey, my mother’s incredibly delicious stuffing and sweet potato pie with marshmallows and for Thanksgiving.

And how could I forget the matzo ball soup, gefilte fish, kugel and my home baked rugalah that have been a part of every Jewish family celebration? This is my heritage – and continuing the rituals helps me to preserve and more deeply root our family members. Think, for a moment, of your own family’s food-related traditions and feel the wonderful, energetic goodness of what this means to you.

Fortunately, for many of my friends, they are able to donate their time and energy to assisting their community members who are homeless by working at food banks. Others, I know, give of their time throughout the year and/or on the holidays to prepare and serve meals for those who have no homes. These acts become loving, ceremonial rituals which enable them to feel they are making a difference in the lives of others.

I often think about the women of the Holocaust who continued to find ways to celebrate special occasions such birthdays, holidays and anniversaries – and the Sabbath. These women understood that they could maintain a sense of some normalcy by continuing the traditions of cooking foods associated with their way of life, as well as maintaining rituals such as prayers and the lighting of candles at appropriate times. I have a cookbook written by the women of the Holocaust (something that I was amazed they could pull off, given the difficulty of their situation). Yet, I know that it is the meager food which was cooked with love and the meaning of the ceremonies and the rituals that sustained them and their families in those most challenging – and horrific circumstances.

Finally, have you thought about the many ways in which you carry on exquisite, loving, ceremonial rituals for your friends and loved ones who are ill, dying or who are grieving? Please consider these times in your life and the ways in which you and your family have either received or provided assistance, be it with a cooked meal , the running of errands, caring for children, being a chauffeur and support system for doctor appointments or assisting with hospital, insurance or burial issues and needs. Because you act from love, these rituals are all high energy shifting experiences for you, bringing you greater peace and comfort.

And, of course, there are the visits you make to either the hospital to be with the ill or to the funeral home or cemetery to honor the deceased. All of these help you and those with whom you visit by the gift of your presence at a time when it is very, very needed as an expression of loving support. You heal yourself and your loved ones by choosing such loving acts and rituals of compassion and kindness.

One of the secrets to a better quality life filled with joy is to consciously and wisely choose those rituals which will feel good to you and enable you to experience healing and well-being!

Susan Barbara Apollon

Author of “Touched By The Extraordinary”
& Intuition Is Easy & Fun

©2009 Susan Barbara Apollon

Finding Bliss And Peace Via Meaningful Rituals – Part 4

April 16, 2009 · Filed Under Creating Peace & Happiness · Comment 

A truly powerful self-generated ritual, other than taking time to go into the stillness daily, via your breath or some form of meditation, is that of journaling. This ritual can be designed to occur when, where and however you wish and need it to be for you. The power of journaling is enormous.

How we spend our days is, of course, how we spend our lives. Annie Dillard

How you live one day is eventually how you live your life. Phillip Yancey

There has been substantial research on the effectiveness of journaling. The work of Prendergast has demonstrated that the process of choosing to write enables you to gain clarity about your thoughts, feelings, questions and desire to know the wisdom of your soul or your intuition. Essentially, the process allows you to become conscious of your pain or what does not feel good, enables you to release it and then operate with greater clarity because you are in a higher, more relaxed vibrational energetic state.

My patients seem to heal more expediently when they begin to journal daily. As with prayer and meditation, there is no one right way to do this. You get to do this any way that feels good and right for you. You can journal just to express what is in your heart or your head. Or, you can journal with specific goals in mind. For example, you may keep an intention journal in which you write your intentions daily, perhaps stating them in one entry, and then in another entry, perhaps later in the day or evening, reviewing the actions you took to work toward manifesting them during the day.

You may also wish to journal daily about your awareness of your own gifts and your positive qualities. Journaling helps you fall in love with you! When you have difficulty connecting with your Higher Self, taking the time to write to your Higher Self, asking questions you have long desired to know and then allowing your Higher Self to channel wisdom, your wisdom, back to you, is particularly healing and empowering. Remember, what you focus on in journaling and everywhere determines your quality of life.

The ritual of journaling with the intention of noting what surprised, touched and inspired you during the day is a real eye and soul opener. I find that his tool, which I have gratefully borrowed from Dr. Rachel Naomi Remen (who borrowed it from a sociologist friend of hers), is amazingly powerful. Just learning to be more conscious of what you are being touched and inspired by (which are higher vibrational experiences) during your day has the ability to change your perspective and open your heart to miracles in your life!

Meditation, of course, is an invaluable self-generated ritual which, when engaged in regularly, brings you so many gifts. Just taking a few minutes each morning to engage in the ritual of choosing to go into the “stillness,” connecting with your soul by breathing deeply or through the use of guided imagery, creates feelings of deep peace, relaxation and well-being (all causing you to shift to a higher vibrational energetic level). And this is in addition to the sense of sacredness associated with an experience which connects you with your Higher power. By engaging in the ritual of meditation, you also further develop your intuitive knowing, which, in turn, contributes to an enhanced sense of self-confidence –all wonderful gifts! (To be continued.)

Susan Barbara Apollon
Author of “Touched By The Extraordinary”

©2009 Susan Barbara Apollon

Finding Bliss And Peace Via Meaningful Rituals – Part 3

April 8, 2009 · Filed Under Creating Peace & Happiness, Healing Wisdom · Comment 

“Through the ceremony, the circle, people move through the inner worlds of Self and one another, connecting with thought, prayer and the sustenance of Presence of others.”
Jeanne Achterberg

When you find yourself struggling with some difficult aspect of life, consider what you might do that could become an event or activity which you would look forward to repeating on a similar occasion. Whatever you create has the power to give you hope, comfort and can contribute to greater harmony and balance in your life (all high vibrational energetic experiences which contribute to the release of healthy neuropeptides for your immune system). In other words, rituals have healing power.

For centuries, perhaps longer, cultures like yours have created rituals which are intended to provide necessary hope and intentional healing. The ceremonial circle is a perfect example of this.. The ritual of meeting in a circle has a sacredness or holiness associated with it. Native American Indians, and so many other cultures, have used the circle as a traditional form of communication, community and healing.

Healing ceremonies, as well as ceremonies for all aspects of life, occur in the circle. One of my favorite experiences is the talking stick ceremony which also occurs in the circle. As a participant receives the sacred stick which is passed from one to another, he or she has an opportunity to speak from the heart while each of the participants listens with his or her heart. And, of course, support groups, especially cancer support and bereavement groups, tend to meet in the circle – a place in which participants feel safe, comfortable and can anticipate a healing experience.

Through the process of trusting and feeling support, participants share and release their pain, enabling them to shift vibrationally and physiologically to a “feel-better” energetic and chemical state. Yes, the circle is an extraordinary and powerful healing tool offering community, understanding, hope and a sense of safe connection.

Each time I give a seminar, my first thought is about how I can best make everything meaningful happen within the circle. Somehow, when in a circle, we experience a greater sense of connection with one another, as well as with our own soul and with our divinity. We also experience a significant sense of cohesiveness, of belonging and of community. I always feel that in the circle the energy flows more effectively between people, as well as between our own being and our soul.

For example, my intuitive development class has always met in a circle and finished with the ritual of singing a beautiful, moving song while participants stand in a circle, holding hands and eyes closed. I can feel the loving energy flowing from one person to another, through me and back into the circle. Consequently, these experiences consistently leave me feeling uplifted and infused with needed energy and are a reminder of my connection with my Higher Self (that is to say, my soul ) and that I am really never alone.

Finding time to pray in your own unique style and in your own time frame becomes one of the most important ceremonial rituals you can incorporate into your life. Whether you build prayer into your life by going to church or synagogue on Sunday or any other day of the week, or you take time to pray in your own home or in any other location, the very act of involvement in this activity contributes to your feeling a sense of connection with something greater than yourself – and results in your sense of being protected, heard and loved.

You can build rituals of prayer into your life easily and effortlessly. I pray regularly in the car, over a lighted candle each morning, in the bath each evening, on Friday nights, saying prayers over the Sabbath candles, while I am on my daily walk and out in nature, and each time I hear of a loved one, friend, patient or neighbor who is in need of prayer. Prayer is portable and you can take it and do it everywhere – and on a regular basis. (To be continued.)

Susan Barbara Apollon
Author of “Touched By The Extraordinary”

©2009SusanBarbara Apollon

Finding Bliss And Peace Through Meaningful Rituals – Part 2

March 25, 2009 · Filed Under Creating Peace & Happiness · 1 Comment 

What we have done for ourselves alone dies with us. What we have done for others and the world remains and is immortal. Albert Pike

You are so wise. You know what you need to survive with grace. The truth is that you are the creator of the rituals which enable you to live your life in a way that feels best to you. While some rituals are inherent in various practices, such as weddings or funerals, you tend to create, quite naturally, the activities which contribute to you surviving and surviving with a feel good feeling, be it a walk each morning or saying your prayers and meditating each day in a favorite spot in or out of your home.

Rituals help you mark the milestones of your life. The first bus ride for each of your children when they begin their official life as a student is a ritual that touches the heart, as does the first school holiday pageant in which they participate, or the first school Halloween parade for which you help them with their costume.

When your loved one dies, rituals again help you mark additional milestones. This may be with a specific service, markings on the gravestone, the lighting of candles and saying of specific prayers are typical rituals. Personally, each year on my mother’s birthday, I go to the florist and purchase for her the most beautiful floral bouquet and take it to the cemetery where I place it in the ground by her gravestone and then sit, cry and talk to her. This helps me to connect with my mom and I do something similar for my dad, as well. I need this ritual to handle my parents’ deaths and I am always more at peace following these activities.

If you think (and feel) about it, the family rituals in which you participated as a child or have created in your adult life have added to the rich awareness of being a part of a family ( a real community) and of sharing in the experience of love, even when love could not be verbally expressed.

Perhaps you and your family always made a big deal of every family member’s birthday, father’s day, mother’s day and every other major holiday. (And, if you did not, you could begin now!) Though you may have complained about having to be present and dress for the occasion, just knowing your Presence mattered contributed to your sense of self-esteem. You mattered!

The precious memories you store in your heart hold the vibration of the joy you experienced in past ceremonies and rituals. For example, if you grew up in an area where you had several snowfalls each winter, then you most likely had opportunities for special snow related activities such as the building of the first snowman – or woman of the season, the sleigh rides you took with your folks, friends and/or siblings, and the hot chocolate and cookies you would have each time you came in from the cold.

Let’s talk mealtimes. Those of you who had to be home for nightly family dinner may have complained about this growing up. However, most adults feel a sense of gratitude for those meals. They provided a sense of groundedness, connection and stability. Research has substantiated the value of rituals such as families gathering for dinner each night.

In fact, Jean Achterberg, a mentor of mine, in Intentional Healing, notes that research confirms that despite the problem of alcohol addiction, when families eat together and participate in family holiday rituals, the children of alcoholics tend not to develop alcohol addition as adults.Vibrationally, despite the alcoholism, the children feel energy of safety, rootedness, stability and goodness because they get to sit down with their families for their evening and holiday meals. This is a powerful argument for the healing power of rituals in families with alcohol addiction problems

Take a moment or two and think about the rituals you might engage in which could best contribute to you and your family being able to feel more connected, more stable and more harmonious; be it walking or watching a movie together, or regularly visiting an ill or dying family member – or going to church, your mosque or synagogue together on a regular basis. (To be continued.).

Susan Barbara Apollon
Author of “Touched By The Extraordinary”

©2009SusanBarbara Apollon

Finding Bliss And Peace Via Choosing Meaningful Rituals

March 13, 2009 · Filed Under Creating Peace & Happiness · Comment 

“Ritual, when it is done in its purest, truest sense, is done in space that is called sacred.”

Jeanne Achterberg

Have you noticed how you feel when your mind and your heart wander back to times spent with your family, be it a trip each year to spend holidays with your grandparents or a vacation you would take every summer with your folks, perhaps at the beach or mountains. Such memories tend to fill you with a sense of peace, comfort, bliss and stability. These are also rituals which are high vibrational energetic experiences and which have the power to heal.

Rituals are not just those events or ceremonies (sometimes with feeling and sometimes not!) associated with religious moments, such as baptisms, communions and Bar Mitvahs. Actually, a ritual can be any activity which is deemed by you to be meaningful and even has a sense of sacredness to it because it feels so special (in a positive way) , powerful and has a meaning near and dear to your heart. Rituals do contribute to your feeling your bliss and feeling good. And, you have the power to create the high vibrational energetic rituals you need and desire in your life.

Just by choosing life, you choose activities that become rituals which give your life meaning – and a meaning which feels good and which sustains you. Though you may not be conscious of this, you are assigning meaning to everything you do – every moment of every day – and the meaning you give to your activities (or rituals ) is what determines the quality of your moment, day and life. Given that everything is energy, make it a point to choose feel-good meaningful rituals.

Perhaps you have noticed that the rituals which bring you joy, such as the times you spend snuggling with your cat, walking your dog each day or regularly baking cookies or fishing with a grandparent or parent, praying and/or meditating daily in your favorite location are those that have a quiet, even subtle sacredness to them. This is a sacredness which may not be obvious to you until you are in your early or later adult years and are recalling earlier times in your life. If you question your life’s meaning and purpose, be sure to revisit your experience of family and community activities in which you have joyfully engaged on a repeated basis throughout your life.

What is it about rituals that is responsible for you feeling such bliss? Well, just remembering or thinking about the times you have spent celebrating graduations, anniversaries, birthdays, births, housewarmings and marriages, provides you with a sense of belonging to someone, something, some place and being a part of a community. And, feeling that you belong feels good!

Also, have you noticed that you do not feel so terribly isolated, lonely or inadequate when you recall feel good memories such as attending school athletic games, high school and college dances, and participation in events such as walkathons, community charities and church and synagogue activities? Focusing on such feel-good experiences enables you to experience a greater sense of well-being and wholeness – definitely peace and bliss.

Indeed, your life is filled with rituals – all of which add richness, depth and joy to what might otherwise be considered simply “existing.” Consider for a moment the events we participate in which revolve around various entertainment events, be it getting together each year to watch the Oscars, the Tonys or Super Bowl games. There are rituals surrounding these activities as well as those involving the parades we attend each year, the barbecues we hold and fireworks we watch each July;

Take a moment and consider a ritual or ceremony you could create that would bring you comfort and peace and then of how you could integrate this into your life.. (To be continued.)

Susan Barbara Apollon
Author of “Touched By The Extraordinary”

©2009SusanBarbara Apollon

Secrets To Finding Bliss And Peace In The Midst Of Dealing With Grief And Loss… Part 3

February 13, 2009 · Filed Under Creating Peace & Happiness · Comment 

“If you can find it in your heart to care for somebody else, you will have succeeded.” Maya Angelou

“We give comfort and receive comfort, sometimes at the same time.”
Anonymous

Losing someone or something you love often robs you of your sense of purpose and identity, leaving you feeling incomplete and out of balance and harmony. I have always been grateful when my grieving patients have work or a job that pleases them, a pet in need of their loving care and, of course, a family which needs their loving attention. You need to have a purpose, a direction in which to move and something that validates you and fills you with good feelings, especially when you are deeply grieving. You see, even in the midst of dealing with grief and loss, Love is the key to finding bliss and peace.

Bear with me for a moment. Believe me, please, when I tell you that you are a gift to the world; you have come to make a difference, perhaps in some small but significant way, or, perhaps in some larger way. But, the Truth is that you are an amazing, powerful being, who, by choosing compassion, kindness, thoughtful caring and Love, can contribute to the expansion of the world, as well as to that of your own soul. Therefore, I strongly encourage you to choose Love – Love for yourself and Love for others.

Healing from loss of any kind, such as the loss of a job, person, pet or health, does steal from you valuable prana, chi, or whatever you wish to call your energy. When you experience the loss of a child, as well as the loss of any other loved one, including the loss of a pet, you often feel traumatized, anxious and/or depressed, you pull back socially and you lose your sense of confidence and desire to do anything that used to bring you pleasure. However, while in the throes of you grieving your loss, you have the power to choose to focus on something which will lift you, bringing you a sense of long lost peace.

The greatest healing of your soul comes when you choose to love yourself enough to choose to do for others who are in need of your assistance While it is imperative that you give yourself time to focus on what it is you grieve or miss, also choose time to focus on someone or something which becomes a reason or purpose for your life or existence which, in turn, enables you regain and reclaim your sense of purpose, identity, your lost sense of self-esteem and a healthy immune system.

You have so many choices available to you. Healing grief and experiencing bliss can occur when making a meal for a sick neighbor, organizing a bake sale or book fair to collect funds for a needy family or charity. And, you feel so good when you have been able to be a part of a soup kitchen or collect food and blankets for the needy.

Whatever you choose, make it your passion and something that excites every cell of your being. Your body loves the energetic vibrations of the enthusiasm and excitement you feel when you are passionate. Passion leads to the release of wonderful chemicals which help you feel more joy, peace and bliss.

No matter what you choose to do to express your passion, you will find that it will lead to you experiencing a greater sense of value, purpose and direction, as well as the release of the most wonderful endorphins and other neuropeptides. Due to the glorious mind-body connection, you will find yourself experiencing moments of being on a natural high, sometimes called the zone. Yes, even in the midst of your losses, you can regain and enjoy feelings of bliss and peace. It is all a function of the loving choices you make.

Bliss and peace are such high vibrational experiences. There are numerous other suggestions which contribute to increased peace and bliss when dealing with the awareness of your losses. For example, if concentration is not an issue, you may lose yourself in a wonderful book; journal your feelings, insights, and whatever fills your heart, mind and body; play your favorite music or musical instrument; play with your pet or go into nature All of these will certainly contribute to your feeling lighter, more peaceful, more harmonious and whole. It is, as always, a matter of choice – and the choice for Love.

Susan Barbara Apollon
Author of “Touched By The Extraordinary”

©2009Susan Barbara Apollon

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