How to Experience Bliss and Heal Body, Mind & Spirit & Loss by Choosing Compassion, Kindness and Love(#2)

July 8, 2010 · Filed Under Purpose of Life · Comment 


"Where there is Love, there is Life."

Mohandas Gandhi

At this time of the year, we have many reasons to celebrate. Graduations, weddings, anniversaries, special vacations and even retirements tend to happen more during the months of May, June, July and August than any other time of the year! We are provided with so many opportunities to share in the joy of our loved ones, and, in so doing, we get to experience personal joy, as well. Taking time to attend an important event of a friend or family member is a powerful way of saying  “I love you.” and “You are important in my life.” It is an expression of choosing Compassion, Kindness and Love.

There are times in our lives, however, when our friendship and personal relationships ask more from us and we are placed in positions of having to truly “walk the talk” of being the  compassionate, caring and kind friend or loved one that we have always thought ourselves to be.

A beautiful example of this is that of Madonna Siles, author of Brain, Heal Thyself: A Caregiver’s New Approach to Recovery from Stroke, Aneurysm, and Traumatic Brain Injuries and Eureka! Memories and Motivations: A Strategy for Creating a Healing Home for the Stroke/Brain Injury Patient and Caregiver. Madonna has become one of my real heroes, demonstrating what Compassion, Perseverance and Love are really about.

I first heard Madonna speak when she was a guest, along with neurosurgeon, Mark McLaughlin, on The Medical View: Where East Meets West, a superb radio show hosted by Dr. Beth DuPree, Dr. Amy Harvey and Dr. Deidre Walsh, on 860 AM  WWBD Philadelphia, Saturdays from 10:00 to 11:00am.  Rarely have I been as touched by the selfless actions of one human being as I was upon hearing about Madonna’s successful efforts to rescue her dear friend from the abyss of a devastating aneurysm and brain injury.

Try to imagine that you and your dearest friend have moved to a new home, a place where you have no support system and your friends live hundreds of miles away, and your dearest friend suddenly has an exploding aneurysm, leaving her in what appears to be almost a “vegetable” condition. You have limited financial resources – and not enough for a long nursing home/rehabilitative stay. What do you do?

Do you choose to stay to provide tedious and difficult caretaking of your friend? Or, do you do what social workers and healthcare professionals recommend–gather your belongings and get as far away from the situation as is possible?

The decision was not one with which Madonna had to struggle, despite the consequential hardship she knew she would have to endure .She resolved to repurpose a few years of her life in order to be the caretaker and, more importantly, the rehabilitator of her good friend, Eve.

But Madonna, who holds no advanced or medical degrees, was able to accomplish so much more than anyone in the health field could have imagined. Thanks to Madonna placing her trust in her Higher Power, relying on her intuition as to how to employ motivational methods to reach Eve’s subconscious mind and integrating the wisdom of the twelve step program into her rehabilitative process, Madonna has enabled Eve to make a stunning and almost full recovery. 

If you or anyone you know is dealing with recovery from stroke, aneurysm or brain injury, Madonna’s book, Brain, Heal Thyself, written with warmth, humor and candor, can provide not only the how-to guidance needed for such an undertaking, but the emotional and spiritual support needed by caretakers, as well. More importantly, Madonna’s choice for Compassion, Kindness and Love provides all of us with another reminder that when we choose Love, bliss and miracles of healing mind, body and spirit are possible.

           “To be a realist, you must believe in miracles.”

David Ben Gurion


Susan Barbara Apollon

Author of “Touched By The Extraordinary”

Intuition Is Easy & Fun

©2010 Susan Barbara Apollon

Secrets To Finding Bliss And Peace In The Midst Of Dealing With Grief And Loss… Part 3

February 13, 2009 · Filed Under Creating Peace & Happiness · Comment 

“If you can find it in your heart to care for somebody else, you will have succeeded.” Maya Angelou

“We give comfort and receive comfort, sometimes at the same time.”

Losing someone or something you love often robs you of your sense of purpose and identity, leaving you feeling incomplete and out of balance and harmony. I have always been grateful when my grieving patients have work or a job that pleases them, a pet in need of their loving care and, of course, a family which needs their loving attention. You need to have a purpose, a direction in which to move and something that validates you and fills you with good feelings, especially when you are deeply grieving. You see, even in the midst of dealing with grief and loss, Love is the key to finding bliss and peace.

Bear with me for a moment. Believe me, please, when I tell you that you are a gift to the world; you have come to make a difference, perhaps in some small but significant way, or, perhaps in some larger way. But, the Truth is that you are an amazing, powerful being, who, by choosing compassion, kindness, thoughtful caring and Love, can contribute to the expansion of the world, as well as to that of your own soul. Therefore, I strongly encourage you to choose Love – Love for yourself and Love for others.

Healing from loss of any kind, such as the loss of a job, person, pet or health, does steal from you valuable prana, chi, or whatever you wish to call your energy. When you experience the loss of a child, as well as the loss of any other loved one, including the loss of a pet, you often feel traumatized, anxious and/or depressed, you pull back socially and you lose your sense of confidence and desire to do anything that used to bring you pleasure. However, while in the throes of you grieving your loss, you have the power to choose to focus on something which will lift you, bringing you a sense of long lost peace.

The greatest healing of your soul comes when you choose to love yourself enough to choose to do for others who are in need of your assistance While it is imperative that you give yourself time to focus on what it is you grieve or miss, also choose time to focus on someone or something which becomes a reason or purpose for your life or existence which, in turn, enables you regain and reclaim your sense of purpose, identity, your lost sense of self-esteem and a healthy immune system.

You have so many choices available to you. Healing grief and experiencing bliss can occur when making a meal for a sick neighbor, organizing a bake sale or book fair to collect funds for a needy family or charity. And, you feel so good when you have been able to be a part of a soup kitchen or collect food and blankets for the needy.

Whatever you choose, make it your passion and something that excites every cell of your being. Your body loves the energetic vibrations of the enthusiasm and excitement you feel when you are passionate. Passion leads to the release of wonderful chemicals which help you feel more joy, peace and bliss.

No matter what you choose to do to express your passion, you will find that it will lead to you experiencing a greater sense of value, purpose and direction, as well as the release of the most wonderful endorphins and other neuropeptides. Due to the glorious mind-body connection, you will find yourself experiencing moments of being on a natural high, sometimes called the zone. Yes, even in the midst of your losses, you can regain and enjoy feelings of bliss and peace. It is all a function of the loving choices you make.

Bliss and peace are such high vibrational experiences. There are numerous other suggestions which contribute to increased peace and bliss when dealing with the awareness of your losses. For example, if concentration is not an issue, you may lose yourself in a wonderful book; journal your feelings, insights, and whatever fills your heart, mind and body; play your favorite music or musical instrument; play with your pet or go into nature All of these will certainly contribute to your feeling lighter, more peaceful, more harmonious and whole. It is, as always, a matter of choice – and the choice for Love.

Susan Barbara Apollon
Author of “Touched By The Extraordinary”

©2009Susan Barbara Apollon

Secrets To Finding Bliss And Peace In The Midst Of Dealing With Grief And Loss… Part 2

February 5, 2009 · Filed Under Creating Peace & Happiness · 2 Comments 

“As you get older, you see the difficulties people have and you see their spirituality so much more.” George Michael

No matter how difficult loss may be for you, be it your grieving special time or situation from the past, a loved one, a place, a job, your health, a dream or the loss of a pet, there are things you can do, via the choices you make, which enable you to feel a sense of bliss and peace in the midst of dealing with grief and loss. In healing grief, one wonderful choice you may make is to take some time to meditate and go deep within your own being, to your core, your stillness.

For example, my heart fills with love for those I miss or for whatever it is I feel has separated from me. So, I sit, pray that they be blessed and watched over and, then, in meditation, I go into the stillness. By using my breath, I center, ground and raise my energy to create my gateway into the stillness. There, I experience great warmth, quiet, a sense of being loved and embraced by my loved ones, as well as by my Source (God, for me) and my angels. This leads to feelings of exquisite bliss and peace, even as I grieve.

In this place, deep within my being, during meditation, I can choose to merge with what I call the Oneness (or All That Is), sometimes called the Field or the Collective Unconscious, the Universe or God. I come to the stillness, deep within me, at my core, sometimes because I feel, from my clinical research and experience, that my loved ones are a part of this place and, here, in the still, gentle, beautiful stillness, I can be and speak with all my loved ones who have passed on.

In this peaceful place, I also feel that I am with my Source, which for me, is God, but, for you, it may be Buddha, Jesus, Universal Energy, Mary, or whatever you wish Source to be. Here I am in bliss and feel greatly comforted. In fact, I often find myself becoming emotionally moved and tearful when I enter this state. It is so healing.

Also, healing from loss is expedited by talking about loved ones who have “died” and by remembering them with your friends and family. In this way, you connect with them, with their essence, their legacy, their spirit and their love. Yes, you are blessed with the ability to feel their love once again, just by choosing to remember the many wonderful moments of the time you shared with them.

You are drawing their energy to you, the energy of a loving connection, the energy of Love. Love (according to scientists such as David Hawkins) is such a high energy that when you experience it, you feel so good, even blissful and peaceful. You can’t get better than that!

Even if the moments with those you grieve were not always wonderful, you can choose to view your relationships with them from your Higher or Soul’s perspective, sometimes referred to as the Observer’s vantage point. From here, you can lovingly observe the role that relationship played in your life, perhaps recognizing that if they had not been who they were, you would not have made choices which contributed to your being who you are now, in this present moment.

If you experienced difficulties or challenges with your loved one, consider expressing your gratitude, appreciation and heartfelt thanks to him or her because those challenges provided you with opportunities for valuable learning experiences, as well as the resistance you needed to become who you are today. Thank them from your heart for the lessons you learned while traveling this lifetime with them.

Honor them. I doubt I would be writing this had it not been for the tougher moments that I encountered in the early years of my life, situations which created the resistance I needed to grow to be who I am.

Choose to recognize that your loved ones did the best they could and that they most likely did this from their love for you, no matter what mistakes they made! A most important point here is that by choosing to forgive them for any unresolved hurts and pain, you are enhancing your chances of experience feelings of greater peace and bliss. Love and forgiveness go hand in hand,When we truly love, we can and do forgive, and peace and bliss are the natural, wonderful consequence of this process. TO BE CONTINUED

Susan Barbara Apollon
Author of “Touched By The Extraordinary

©2009Susan Barbara Apollon

Secrets To Finding Your Bliss And Peace In The Midst Of Dealing With Grief And Loss

January 24, 2009 · Filed Under Creating Peace & Happiness · Comment 

“God is closest to those with broken wings.” Jewish saying

Have you noticed that there are times when it seems that your sense of grief and loss seems particularly overwhelming? For some reason, more deaths tend to come around the holidays, be it Christmas, Thanksgiving or Easter. The loss of a child, as well as the loss of a spouse, parent, sibling, friend and, certainly, the loss of a pet, will bring up other losses in your lives (losses that feel vibrationally the same), including the loss of dreams, purpose, jobs, health and identity.

So, as you start the New Year, many of you have either recently experienced some form of loss or have been reminded of multiple past losses. In other words, you know that you are deeply missing and grieving for your family or friends or whatever significant experience that had once been a part of your life.

I remember that sometime in early December, while putting in exhausting hours, trying to complete several projects before the year’s end, my mind wandered to my mom and dad, and I suddenly found myself falling to my knees ( fortunately my office is carpeted ), crying into my apron and screaming aloud, “Where are you? Where are you?”

My parents, Simmy and Harry, had died at the same time of year – during the winter holidays. Those who know me will be surprised I should ask such a question, given the courses I teach and the books I write which deal with spirituality and healing from grief and loss.

You see, I know with every cell of my being that death is a matter of transformation of energy – that it is the energy of the body which is transformed and which is most often present for us, as soul energy, soon after the loss of the physical body. My research and clinical work have confirmed for me that our loved ones frequently continue to be energetically present for us whenever we are dealing with loss, which occurs especially during the first year following the loss, and is usually a part of the second, as well.

But, I miss my parents, just as you miss your loved ones, and while I know they are spiritually and energetically available to me, every once in awhile, I would love to hold them, hug them, be their little girl, once again, and talk with them. You know what I mean. Even 15 years after my mom’s death and two years after my dad’s, I want to call them and share the newest, most wonderful events in our children’s lives, the grandchildren they adored, and I have also wanted them to physically share our holiday dinners and celebrations with us.

So, in the midst of dealing with grief and loss, what can you do to feel more peaceful and blissful? While there many ways which enable you to re-establish an inner sense of balance and harmony, whatever you do, it must feel right for you in that moment. For example, simply give yourself permission to cry while looking at photographs and momentos of your loved ones

Talk to them wherever you the feelings seem to overpower you. Sometimes, I talk to them while seated at my kitchen table, while driving alone in my car (not so odd looking these days, given that people are always talking on their cell phones) or while doing the dishes.
I talk to my deceased loved ones, sometimes mentally, sometimes verbally, telling them what is in my heart. Again, my research and the work of quantum physicist, Albert Einstein, and his colleagues, have taught me that everything is pure energy and vibrates, including us, our thoughts and our loved ones from whom we have been separated. They, therefore, are well aware of our thoughts and feelings, again, because everything is energy and vibrates.

Furthermore, because of the power of your loving connection with those you grieve (love being one of the highest energetic vibrations), they are very aware of what you feel within your heart, which you express through your words and thoughts (all pure energy – the energy of love). Personally, I experience a sense of bliss and peace and am comforted by the thought that my deceased loved ones know and feel the love that I feel for them both in my heart and throughout my entire being. TO BE CONTINUED

Susan Barbara Apollon
Author of “Touched By The Extraordinary”

©2009Susan Barbara Apollon